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学习经营情感

sensibility.jpgIf I get close to you, I get hurt. But if I don’t get close to you, I get lonely. If I tell you truly how I feel, you distance from me. But if I can not tell you truly how I feel, I distance from you

第一次听到这段话，我是在爱情博士黄维仁的讲座上面听到的。对于爱或者感情，我不理解，也不能理解。爱，如果懂了那就不叫爱了。失恋了就成了情圣了？呵呵～可能吧
人生的乐趣不在别处，只在感情！有感情才有快乐，才知道人间的百般滋味。如果没有感情，人生就寂灭了。人生就正如穿越麦田和树林，只走一次，不能回头，要找到属于自己最好的麦穗和大树，就必须要有莫大的勇气和付出相当的努力。
在这个充满忧患的世界，只有一颗大大的心才托得住如此厚重的情感！其实人大可不必较真，只要学着把这颗心一天天放得宽大，关心自己，也关心别人，便有无穷喜乐……
人本来就是感情动物，如果没有感情一切将变的苍白。所以不论情感有多么的厚重，我们都要努力的背负、承载。
附陈旧小文一篇呵呵～想不到自己还是有一定预言能力：）

在儿时的梦里，纯真地以为花长好月长圆到永远。
就连童话故事中的公主与王子也多是以“过着幸福的生活”而定格。
小小的心里一相情愿地认为两个契合的事物、有心相爱的人都能得到完美，永远地。于是，用我的固执守着，守着我所拥有的财宝。
不懂得，每个人都只是一只飞翔的鸽子，有缘的彼此是对方的一扇窗，有一天，栖息在对方的窗上只是做短暂的停留。
我以为我可以是一个金丝笼，可以留驻每一只停憩的鸽子，直到我看到她们飞翔的双翼被我折煞，悲伤。
以为从此我懂得了红玫瑰与白玫瑰本就不同。
是时间这可怕的毒，在我们曾经最珍视的人或事物上蒙上了厚厚的尘。
眼见着他们冷却了热情，麻木了感觉，一颗心也随之厌烦难耐。
反而那些曾经失去的，烟花般逝去的往昔却能在记忆中灿烂如昔。
理想主义的人们于是开始了追求完美的行动，将爱情进展到如火如荼，然后翩然远离，让那些情浓时的甜蜜封存在记忆的深处。
越来越多的人不相信爱情却又一刻也离不了爱的润泽，以为在适当的时候适时的抽离是保护自己不受伤害的睿智之举。
尊严得到了保存，美好得到了永存。
只是不负责任的爱也被不负责任的对待，疲惫。
在一本书里偶然看到这样一段话（原文记不得了）：当小狐狸被小王子豢养后，小狐狸与千千万万的小狐狸有了区别。
从此它归属于小王子。
王子对小狐狸负有豢养的责任。
于是，王子每天来看小狐狸，与它交谈，可是他每天到来的时间没有规律。
小狐狸对他说，每天你要在固定的时间到来，这样我才知道什么时候做好心理准备，这样久了，就是习惯。
顿悟，人与人相处，两个相爱的人，有别于千千万万的人。
爱与被爱就是某种程度的占有与被占有。
权衡好占有与被占有的度，需要彼此地磨和形成习惯。
习惯的形成需要双方一定的妥协、放弃，很多的理解、包容。
爱是一种责任。
情感是需要经营，才会历久弥新的。
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